Struggling with your job search? Guess what? You’re normal!

So you find THE BEST JOB for you!  It matches your skills, your background and experiences, your expertise, etc.  You spend 4 hours customizing your resume, your cover letter and maybe even your portfolio! You get former bosses and clients to sign recommendation letters to include.  You lick the stamp, you send it all in and…..

Zip. nada. ZILCH!

Three weeks go by and YOU HEAR NOTHING!

You leave voice mail messages.  You send emails.


Big sighhhhhh…..what did I do wrong???

Here’s the reality.

Employers not getting back to job seekers is, unfortunately, completely normal.  Yes it sucks.  Yes its rude and yes it is the number one complaint from job seekers.

But job seekers: as hard as it is to read this, don’t take it personally.

If you do, here’s what happens:  that mountain of confidence you built up in yourself begins to crumble.  That red-hot flame of dedication starts to extinguish.  After a few of these experiences, your confidence and self-esteem starts to chip away.

And then comes the ‘stinking thinking’ – those terrible little voices in your head that try to convince you of why didn’t get the call back.  “What is wrong with me?”  “I’m too old.”  “I’m too young.”  “I’m overqualified.”  “My resume sucks.”  “I have to ‘dumb down’ my resume.”  “I need to ask for less money.”  “I need to exaggerate my resume.”…..and on and on and on.

Before you know it, you have given yourself more reasons why someone shouldn’t hire you, as opposed to why they should bring you on board.

Here’s the best advice.  “Stop it! Stop it! Stop it!”

And here’s one more piece of advice:  “STOP THE STINKING THINKING!!”

I’ve seen it time and time again.

I ask a job seeker, “So, tell me about your job search!”  And for the next five minutes I’m being give 20 reasons they’ve convinced themselves why they are NOT getting hired as opposed to sharing with me the qualities that SHOULD get them in the door.

When I ask them, “Who told you that you are too inexperienced?  Who told you that you are too senior?  Did someone say to you, ‘we can’t hire you because you’re asking for too much money?  Did someone say to you, ‘your resume stinks?”

And the answer is inevitably, “Well, nobody really ever told me that…but I just assumed since I didn’t hear back.  I just figured since I didn’t get the job….”

You can’t let this discourtesy rock your confidence and certainly not let it define who you are!  I mean seriously – are you are going to let a nameless, overworked corporate HR recruiter who probably had 300 resumes to go through who may or may not have even seen your resume determine what you think of yourself?

Don’t let it happen.   You are who you are and you need to remain confident in all you have to offer!

You are an experienced professional with skills, talents, value, expertise, accomplishments, industry knowledge, and a deep and robust work ethic.  Keep pushing forward.  Keep motivated and remain faithful to yourself!

Move on.  Keep your motivation strong and your persistence and commitment stronger.



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7 responses to “Struggling with your job search? Guess what? You’re normal!

  1. laurapayette

    This all makes sense and is perfectly logical, but when you’re in the trenches you’re very emotional. And in that case it’s not so easy to apply this logic.

    • Not easy, for sure. But you really have no choice. Figure out what triggers help you keep motivated. Remind yourself of your success in the past and continue to apply that to everything you do. Celebrate the little successes of your job search and think of this journey as an adventure! I know its tough. Some days it just knocks the breath out of you and you want to curl into a ball and not leave the house. Find that spark that pushes you to go back at it!

  2. bmau5

    I’m currently in the trenches. Finding an entry level position is difficult, because people with 2 years experience can wipe out the competition and get the job. I have been trying my hardest to keep up with the internships, etc.

    However, It really is hard to stay positive. I am always sure that if they just called me back I could win the interview….So I try to stay positive?

    This is good advice. I just feel defeated.

  3. Stephanie Barnhizer

    Darn good advice, and well-timed (post it every week and it will always be well-timed)!

    As well, after a number of interviews followed by a “thanks, but…” one’s confidence in interviewing is whittled away on top of the basic lack of self-esteem in being unemployed. And, it’s tough to self-coach.

    The best is to keep networking, even if it seems more like socializing. I am gaining a lot of hope in the “informational interview,” though yet have not been called in for a real interview afterwards. It just feels good to meet with a real human being to discuss work and to help him/her vision what’s coming along in the field and to help one’s self vision where is the best new “home”.

    I read recently that “people are attracted to energy.” Remember that when communicating – in writing and in person.

    Visualize ourselves contributing in that place where we are applying.

    Best of luck to us!

  4. Great write up thanks!

  5. Thanks for the article and enjoying your blog!

  6. Very interesting site and articles. Really thankful for sharing. Will surely recommend this site to some friends! Regards,

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